notes to (future) self

What is it called when all you want to do is watch this show?

Wed, 15 May 2013 19:57:47 -0400

What is it called when all you want to do is watch this show?

reprise: Giving excellent face on French TV program Grand...

Sun, 12 May 2013 21:11:29 -0400

reprise: Giving excellent face on French TV program Grand Journal de Canal+ // Cannes 2012

Please enjoy these pictures of Tom Hardy as you wait for original content, which may end up being a very long wait.

newsweek: Rescuers pull a woman, identified by Bangladeshi...

Fri, 10 May 2013 21:38:50 -0400

newsweek:

Rescuers pull a woman, identified by Bangladeshi media as Reshma, 17 days after a garment factory collapse that has killed more than 1,000 people.

[Photo: STRDEL/AFP/Getty]

Putting things into perspective kind of day.

Billions Of Cicadas Returning To NYC For First Time In 17...

Wed, 08 May 2013 22:09:08 -0400

Billions Of Cicadas Returning To NYC For First Time In 17 Years

No. No no. No no no no no. No. Noo-ooo. Nope. Nuh-uh.

Behind feeling unwanted and insignificant, falling/being in like...

Wed, 08 May 2013 22:01:00 -0400

Behind feeling unwanted and insignificant, falling/being in like with someone is one of the worst feelings.

"You haven’t ignored the last of me!"

Sun, 05 May 2013 22:37:17 -0400

“You haven’t ignored the last of me!”

- Zapp Brannigan

If I look sleepy, it’s because I was sleepy. Thank you to...

Sun, 05 May 2013 22:32:52 -0400

If I look sleepy, it’s because I was sleepy. Thank you to Maggie Brown in Clinton Hill and their jalapeno cheddar grits for that. Also, I’m posting this picture to prove to my parents that I have friends. #latergram #brunch

Listen, I’m at a bar playing Dangerous Minds by Coolio, so I cannot be held accountable for my...

Sat, 04 May 2013 01:54:05 -0400

Listen, I’m at a bar playing Dangerous Minds by Coolio, so I cannot be held accountable for my actions.

nedhepburn: Got from here. Maybe I should take a hint and go...

Sat, 04 May 2013 01:51:14 -0400

nedhepburn:

Got from here.

Maybe I should take a hint and go home instead of trying to mediate my friends who are a couple.

This Isn't LiveJournal But It Is, Issue #A Number

Mon, 29 Apr 2013 00:03:57 -0400

The following is personal, but also something I need to put out there to really get it out of my system. It’s not something I feel I can talk to anyone about without them taking it the wrong way, and if I express it on a public forum, I can have the feeling of talking it out without actually having to interact with anyone.

I love my friends. I mean, that’s why they’re my friends. And they’re all in relationships, which is great because their significant others are great and I consider them to be my friends, as well. They never do anything to make me feel like a third, fifth, or seventh wheel, but I think what people don’t realize is that sometimes it just happens anyway. Because couples are couples, and they should do couply things like holding hands or leaning against each other or whatever it is that couples do in public, but if you’re a lonely person surrounded by couples and you let your mind wander off even a little, it’s a bummer.

Dating, I guess, is the expected solution for this kind of problem. Date around until you find someone you can settle into for longer than a couple of months. Someone who wants to see you more than a routine once a week, someone who listens to you as much as you listen to him, someone who doesn’t say “I just want something casual” on the second date, someone who’s… you know, into you.

I spent a majority of 2012 trying to do that, and the only thing that came out of all of my experiences is confirmation that men are the worst. I’m not saying this because these guys were not into me; I don’t think men are the worst because they don’t like me. They are the worst because so much of their actions are driven by attraction. It’s as if they don’t know how to be nice or friendly to a woman unless they are sexually attracted to her.

And they are the worst because no matter how educated or progressive they may be, they still see women as caricatures. OkCupid’s You Should Message Me If section of male profiles are lousy with them - “You should message me if: you are a sexy punky/quirky librarian type”. WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN? What the fuck are you talking about, you useless asshole on my elbow.

So dating… yea, that’s not a solution. What you’re left with, then, is getting comfortable with hanging out with yourself. Take yourself to the museum or to the park or to the movies. Treat yourself to a nice dinner. Go to a comedy show and have a good laugh.

This can sound corny or sad depending on who you ask, but after a year of constant romantic rejection, disappointment, and feelings of inadequacy, it’s important to remind yourself of why you liked yourself in the first place. It’s not important in that “Well who is going to love if you don’t love yourself” way - that is probably the worst saying I have ever heard, but it’s important to be comfortable with yourself. Ultimately, you need to be your own best friend and life partner. Everything else is just extra.

"I joined a band to tell everyone to fuck off, and if somebody said to me, “Your image is shit,” I’d..."

Sun, 28 Apr 2013 16:43:12 -0400

“I joined a band to tell everyone to fuck off, and if somebody said to me, “Your image is shit,” I’d have gone, “Fuck off, knob head!” and if someone had said, “Your music’s shit,” I would have nutted them. That’s what’s lacking in groups. They’ve missed out that growing-up stage of being bloody-minded and fucking clueless. You have to have ultimate self-belief. You have to believe right from the word go that you’re great and that the rest of the world has to catch up with you. Of us lot, Ian was the best at that. He believed in Joy Division completely.”

- Peter Hook, Unknown Pleasures: Inside Joy Division (via nedhepburn)

"One bomb blast in Boston and everyone cries. While in Karachi its been 2nd in two days. The ones..."

Sat, 27 Apr 2013 00:12:53 -0400

“One bomb blast in Boston and everyone cries.
While in Karachi its been 2nd in two days.
The ones who die here are humans too, they have a family too but just because they aren’t from or in another country it doesn’t matter as much as it does when it happens in USA or Europe? Everyone became a ‘bostonion’ after the Boston incident so now lets become Pakistani and maybe Yemenis or Iraqis the day after? Thats how empathy works right?”

- Asim Azhar (via sweetasnutella)

Yea, maybe Israelis, too.

12. favourite actor: Tom Hardy. Hubba hubba,...

Wed, 24 Apr 2013 22:23:43 -0400

12. favourite actor:

Tom Hardy.

Hubba hubba, etc. Just reverting to my old habits.

Dear future self,

Mon, 22 Apr 2013 23:21:53 -0400

Be more thorough in your internet stalking of people. You missed a detail that could have prevented a lot of trouble. Cross your I’s and dot your T’s, jeez.

Best,

Self v.4.22.2013

When you leave my cousin who is a 14-year old boy alone with...

Mon, 22 Apr 2013 02:26:02 -0400

When you leave my cousin who is a 14-year old boy alone with your phone, this is what happens.

My cousin who is a 14 year old boy nursing a Shirley Temple...

Sun, 21 Apr 2013 20:00:26 -0400

My cousin who is a 14 year old boy nursing a Shirley Temple after a long day. #teenagers

Besides the feeling of being unwanted, there is that feeling of insignificance - a very specific...

Sat, 20 Apr 2013 21:30:54 -0400

Besides the feeling of being unwanted, there is that feeling of insignificance - a very specific kind of insignificance, when you are left thinking about a person who is not thinking about you or caring about your actions. This feeling spirals into another - the feeling that you greatly misjudged a situation, and when you lose your amazing sense of judgement, what do you have left? What you have left is that feeling of insignificance and the unpleasant sensation of being duped.

Here’s to thoughts.

Just kidding.

Last night, my friends and I went to the Tribeca Drive-In for a...

Sat, 20 Apr 2013 18:26:18 -0400

Last night, my friends and I went to the Tribeca Drive-In for a screening of a very fine and intriguing film called Beetlejuice.

The title character is portrayed by one Michael Keaton, and I do believe it is some of his best work. You can see for yourself in the video above.

Of note: the movie really holds up and it’s amazing that this movie had a PG rating when it originally came out.

nedhepburn: Interview: Will Horowitz of NYC’s famous Ducks...

Thu, 18 Apr 2013 15:57:35 -0400

nedhepburn:

Interview: Will Horowitz of NYC’s famous Ducks Eatery.

A couple of months ago I went here and had one of the best meals of my life, hands down. I got the chance to sit down and talk with Will the other day – he’s a great guy and a stellar person to talk to about creativity behind food.

When you’re making up a recipe, is it like writing a song? How much of it comes in the moment?

It’s an interesting balance. There’s usually an initial ingredient, recipe or old school technique that inspires me like an anvil getting dropped on my head. It will completely take over my life. I’ll study, learn and often break down the entire science and history behind it, tracing it back through time, wars, trade routes and culture. From that point, I usually sit down with my partner, Chef Dave Milburn (we just call him Bernie) and we begin to rebuild it. We put the pieces back together through pure, in the moment stream of consciousness fed inspiration. When we get it right, the beauty of the finished product is just as much it’s creativity as it is the history, passion and story it hopefully tells…

If you’re in NYC, I will be going here on my birthday (May 2nd). It really is that good. Will (pictured) is brutally talented.

Read more.

Hubba hubba! What a hottie.

likeapairofbottlerockets: Halfway through this I was like “I’m...

Tue, 16 Apr 2013 20:26:20 -0400

likeapairofbottlerockets:

Halfway through this I was like “I’m gonna count the # of girls in this vid who are not half-naked/making out with each other/perhaps actually DJing.” IF YOU GUESS THE RIGHT NUMBER I WILL GIVE YOU ZERO DOLLARS BECAUSE THAT’S THE SAME AMOUNT.

Oh is this why Vice was at Cameo for Turbotax and positioning cool looking people amongst the dancers they hired?